Opening Our Hearts, Transforming Our Losses
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Grief and loss affect almost every aspect of living-or having lived-with alcoholism. Members share how they have learned to acknowledge and accept these losses with the help of Al-Anon Family Groups. Indexed, softcover. 201 pages.
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“When I first dragged myself into the rooms of Al‑Anon, I discovered that alcoholics had three choices: institutions, death, or recovery. I had the same three options. I chose recovery. I didn’t like the alternatives”.
Living with alcoholism can feel like we’re in a constant state of mourning. We may have become so adept at living with a loss that we go about our days unaware of its presence. When we admit that our lives are affected by someone else’s drinking, we are also admitting our grief. Because alcoholism is a family disease, all members of the family are affected, not just the alcoholic. Each person reacts in his or her own way in response to the alcoholic environment. One may try to control, while another may deny there’s even a problem. Others will blame themselves.
Before Al‑Anon, we kept ourselves busy seeking solutions for the alcoholic. When what we were trying to accomplish wasn’t succeeding, we told ourselves to work harder or to try something else. We may even have told ourselves it was our fault if we couldn’t convince the alcoholic to get sober. If we could only find the right words at the right time, relayed in just the right tone of voice, then maybe we could get the alcoholic to see things our way. Desperate to fulfill our dreams for a happy family life, we thought that devoting all our energy to the problem was the answer. Little did we know we were actually contributing to the problem by trying to force solutions.
In Al‑Anon we learn that we didn’t cause the alcoholism in our lives, we can’t control it, and we can’t cure it. If we’re trying to force solutions, we can remember “Easy Does It.” Though we can’t expect our lives to always be easy, this slogan suggests that every‑ thing doesn’t have to be so hard all the time either. “Easy Does It” reminds us to be gentle with ourselves. We don’t have to try harder or do better. We have tried long and hard enough. Though we may not be able to change the alcoholic, we discover there is one person we can change—ourselves.
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Weight | 9.92 oz |
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Dimensions | 8.4 × 5.4 × 0.6 in |